THE STOP METHOD

The stop method for when you're feeling low .

S

stop physically , literally stop moving stop whatever you're doing freeze in space . take a step back from whatever you're doing, if you feel comfortable. stop engaging with whatever it is you're doing.

T

take a breath inhale for five sec , pause at the top of your breath then exhale for seven seconds ,focus only on breathing take as long as you need.

O

observe . pay attention to nay unease you feel in your body , scan from head to toe , observe your heart rate or any areas of restlessness . 

what emotions are you feeling ?

name them , what is going on in environment it is loud or quiet ?

P

proceed with purpose , what is it that you need right now ? is it rest ?

food ? what is realistically manageable right now?  what is going to serve you right now ? is it getting back to work for 20 min ? calming down with the shower ? decide what is in your best interest and commit to it.

defeated

"Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent."

love tips

Most people dont want to hear this, but relationships that last involve alot of forgiveness. You have to accept the fact that your partner isnt perfect & will  disappoint you, & upset you. You have to figure out if you’re willing to go thru ups & downs with them.

Life quotes

Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are and your reputation is what others think you are.

40 THINGS TO DO BEFORE YOU DIE

1. GO ON SAFARI 
2. GET MARRIED 
3. LEARN HOW TO DRIVE 
4. GO TO A MASQUERADE BALL 
5. MAKE A SNOW ANGEL
6. HAVE CHILD
7. KISS OR DANCE IN THE RAIN
8. SEE A WEST END OR BROADWAY SHOW
9. DONATE BLOOD 
10. CREATE YOUR DREAM HOME 
11. CONQUER YOUR BIGGEST FEAR 
12. SEE THE MONA LISA
13. GO ON A HOT AIR BALLOON
14. GO TO A WEEKEND FESTIVAL
15. RIDE IN A LIMOUSINE
16. SEE THE NORTHERN LIGHTS
17. RIDE IN HELICOPTER
18. DO VOLUNTEER WORK
19. SEE THE SEVEN WONDERS OF THE WORLD
20. EAT AT A 5- STAR RESTAURANT
21. RUN A MARATHON
22. FALL IN LOVE 
23. GET A TATTOO
24. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE
25. GO SKYDIVING
26. BREAK A GUINNESS WORLD RECORD 
27. COOK A 5- COURSE MEAL 
28. GO SKIING
29. GO WHALE WATCHING
30. FLY FIRST CLASS
31. PLAY AN INSTRUMENT
32. SPEND NEW YEAR'S EVE IN TIMES SQUARE
33. GO TO MARDI  GRAS
34. LEARN TO DANCE
35. LIVE ABROAD
36. ATTEND THE OLYMPICS
37. MEET YOUR IDOL
38. OWN A PET 
39. GO ON A ROAD TRIP
40. MAKE YOUR PARENTS PROUD 

21 UNKNOWN FACTS ABOUT LONELINESS

1. loneliness does not depends on how many friends or relationship you have. 
2. more than 60% of lonely people are married.
3. loneliness distorts our perception of our relationship .
4. loneliness actually makes us feel colder.
5. loneliness is contagious in social networks.
6. loneliness makes our bodies feel like under attack.
7. loneliness is tied to coronary heart disease and stroke.
8. loneliness is tied to lower than average immune system.
9. at top level universities found that although it's true that leader and ceos often feel a burden on themselves for taking high risk decision; they don't feel isolated or lonely.
10. fact , they feel even more connected to people; and report fewer feelings of loneliness than you'd expect
11. in denmark , there is a national program  that urges people to eat togather to avoid loneliness.
12. in the uk, there is  a 500,000.00 fund to fight loneliness.
13. feeling lonely is singnal that you're hungry for more connection.
14. you can experience loneliness even when you have a large social circle.
15. it's not uncommon to feel more alone as you get older.
16. sometimes it takes a specific type of friend to ease loneliness.
17. making friend time a priority guards against isolation
18. sometimes the person who tries to keep everyone happy , is the loneliest person
19. loneliness and the feeling of unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
20. psychologically, loneliness is not about how many friends you have; its about feeling from the rest of the world.
21. loneliness is not dangerous, it's addicting. once you see how peacefully it is , you don't want to deal with people.

POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND AFFIRMATIONS FOR 2020

    POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND AFFIRMATION FOR 2020 


1. THERE IS NO ONE BETTER TO BE THAN MYSELF.

2.  I AM ENOUGH.

3. TODAY IS GOING TO BE AN AWESOME DAY.

4. I ACCEPT WHO I AM.

5. I CAN BE ANYTHING I WANT TO BE.

6. IT IS ENOUGH TO DO MY BEST.

7. I CAN DO ANYTHING.

8. TODAY I WILL WALK THROUGH MY FEARS.

9. I AM OPEN AND READY TO LEARN.

10. EVERYDAY IS A FRESH START.

11. IF I FALL, I WILL GET BACK AGAIN.

12. I AM WHOLE.

13. I ONLY COMPARE MY SELF TO MY SELF.

14. I GET BETTER EVERY SINGLE DAY.

15. I AM AN AMAZING PERSON.

16. ALL OF MY PROBLEMS HAVE SOLUTION.

17. TODAY I  AM LEADER.

18. I FORGIVE MY SELF FOR MY MISTAKES. 

19. MY CHALLENGES HELP ME GROW

20. I AM PERFECT JUST THE WAY I AM .

21. MY MISTAKES HELPS ME LEARN.

22. TODAY IS GOING TO BE A GREAT DAY.

23. I HAVE COURAGE TO DO WHAT I WANT TO DO. 

24. I CAN TALK TO ANYONE 

25. I BELIEVE IN MY GOALS AND MY DREAMS.

26. I HAVE PEOPLE WHO LOVES ME.

27. TODAY I CHOOSE TO THINK POSITIVE.

28. I CAN DO ANYTHING I PUT MY MIND TO. 

29. I AM CAPABLE OF SO MUCH.

30. EVERYTHING WILL BE OKEY. 

31. I HAVE EVERYTHING I NEED RIGHT NOW. 

32. I AM FREE TO MAKE MY OWN CHOICES.

33. I DESERVE TO BE LOVED. 

34. I CAN MAKE DIFFERENCE. 

35. I HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE MY DREAMS TRUE.

36. I BELIEVE IN MY ABILITIES.

37. GOOD THINGS ARE GOING TO COME TO ME .

38. I MATTER.

39. MY CONFIDENCE GROWS WHEN I STEP OUTSIDE OF MY COMFORT ZONE.

40. I ALWAYS STAY POSITIVE.

41. SAY IT LIKE IT'S ALREADY DONE. 

42. I AM OPEN AND READY TO RECEIVE MONEY NOW. 

43. MONEY IS ATTRACTED TO ME AND NEEDS ME TO SPEND IT NOW.

44. EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE HELPS ME PROSPER FINANCIALLY NOW. 

45. I AM WORTHY OF HAVING MORE WEALTH.

46. FINANCIAL FREEDOM IS MY BIRTHRIGHT.

47. I AM POWERFUL MONEY MAGNET.

48. I AM GRATEFUL TO BE FINANCIALLY FREE

49. BEING WEALTHY FEELS AMAZING .

50. I AM MASTER OF MY OWN MONEY.